And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, It is because I find some person, place, thing, situation — Some fact of my life — unacceptable to me, And I can find no serenity until I accept That person, place, thing, or situation As being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; Unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much On what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

– Big Book Pg 417